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10 Words That Will Drain Your Hope

9/2/2014

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We all have our favorite slogans, Scripture verses, even song lyrics that encapsulate our core beliefs. They become our "words to live by"; a mantra we find ourselves repeating continually, either in our heads or out loud. We recite our phrase of choice whenever challenges come our way. Some folks are so committed to their slogan that they have it tattooed on their person; their bodies becoming living, moving billboards promoting their particular proverb for all to see.

Some of the more inspirational inscriptions on people's lives: 
  • If you can dream it, you can do it.--Walt Disney
  • You'll never find a rainbow if you're looking down.--Charlie Chaplin
  • Not all of us can do great things. But we can do small things with great love.--Mother Teresa
  • Carpe diem (seize the day)--Horace
  • Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.--Helen Keller
  • I can do all things through him who strengthens me.--Apostle Paul
  • Don't worry, be happy.--Bobby McFerrin

When I was younger, my personal slogan was not quite so inspirational. Disturbing might be a more fitting adjective. You see, for much of my life, my motto was: If you always expect the worst, you'll never be disappointed. 

Not exactly a phrase you want under your name in the school yearbook. 

For me, having grown up in an alcoholic home where my main objective was to simply get through each day with some semblance of sanity, those words served as a banner of protection. They prevented me from being hurt even more. They guarded me from being let down even further. They insulated me from experiencing even deeper dejection.

My life's slogan, as cynical as it sounds, actually proved to be helpful to me as a child. It shielded me from greater hurt and frustration. But when, as a grownup, I defaulted to my childhood motto, I found that the words that once were strangely beneficial were now causing untold harm.

It took a lot of soul-searching to recognize it, but those ten words had sucked joy out of my life. They put a damper on my spirit. They drained me of hope. 

My introspection led me to the discovery that when one always expects the worst it's impossible to truly enjoy life. We cannot relish the good when we're convinced that bad is lurking around the corner. We can't appreciate times of blessing when we've come to believe that we're cursed.

I came to the realization that my mantra was incompatible with the message of Scripture. The Bible speaks of a God in whom we can have great expectations. In His Word, we discover a Heavenly Father who wants His kids to not just expect joy, but the fullness of joy; not just peace, but peace that surpasses all comprehension; not just life, but the abundance of life.

The Greek word for abundance that Jesus used means, overflowing; considerably more than one could expect or anticipate. While believers are promised this kind of life, that is not to say that difficulties and heartaches won't come our way. But when we come to expect adversity, we will find that our expectation is often realized; it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. 

When we look for the bad in any and every situation we will find it. And we will miss out on the joy, peace, and abundance of life that God wants us to have. 

I have found that waiting on God is far more preferable than waiting for the other shoe to drop. There are still times when my old way of thinking kicks in. That not only hurts me, it hurts the God who yearns for me to put my hope in Him at all times, in all situations. 

In the book of Romans, Paul offers this prayer for me and believers of all generations: I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit. (Rom. 15:13, NLT)

I now have a new life's motto: If you always expect the best, you will bring honor to God.

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4 Words We Must Never Say AgainĀ 

8/26/2014

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If we want to stop feeling persecuted and victimized; if we long to rid ourselves of the bitterness--perhaps even hatred--that continually gnaws at our souls; if we have any hope of one day experiencing lasting joy and fulfillment in our lives, there are four words we must never say again: 

It's...not...my...fault.

We may experience abuse, maltreatment, discrimination, or oppression at the hands of others. But our character is shaped by our own hands. 

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Does God Really Want You to Be Happy?

7/8/2014

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Many people have justified their life choices by using the rationale, "God wants me to be happy." But does He?

In a word, yes. As long as our happiness is not a result of sinful behaviors that we know from His Word would not make Him happy. 

Contrary to the concept many have of God, He is not a dour, fun-deprived deity who is incapable of a good belly laugh. God created grins and giggles. He designed smiles and snickers--of both the chortle and the chocolate variety. 

A sense of humor is one of God's most glittering gifts. I'd love to give one to those who have clearly been deprived, but I've learned the hard way that if people aren't factory-equipped there is little I can do about it.

God is a Father who delights in His children. He enjoys seeing us smile. It warms His heart when His kids relish the life He's given us. 

It was King Solomon (and not the Byrds) who wrote,

       There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
              a time to be born and a time to die,
              a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal,
              a time to tear down and a time to build,
              a time to weep and a time to laugh,
              a time to mourn and a time to dance,
              a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
              a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing
(Ecclesiastes 3:1-5, NIV).

Solomon's little song was concluded with the words, there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live (v. 12).

So, yes, God desires us to be happy. But it is even more meaningful to Him that we be joyful.

Happiness and joy are often used interchangeably. But there is a big difference. Joy--God's preferred emotion--goes much deeper.
  • Happiness is a feeling. Joy is an attitude.
  • Happiness leaves when adversity comes. Joy remains in good times and bad.
  • Happiness is based on our circumstances. Joy is based on God's promises.
  • Happiness is a result of things going right. Joy is a result of being right with God.


It is joy that keeps us cheerful in those trying times of uprooting and tearing down. It is joy that lifts our spirits when we find ourselves in those difficult times of weeping and mourning. It is joy that enables us to smile, even in times of death.  

Because God is very fond of us He wants us to be happy. Because He wants the very best for us He wants us to be joyful.

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