The key is finding the right people to be a part of our recovery team: people who are going to encourage us, build us up, and help us to heal. Our support base may include friends, mentors, pastors, counselors, or a 12-step group. Look around. Who is it that God has placed in your life to be His voice, His ears, His arms? Identify them. Draw strength from them.
That being said, this process of building our support network also involves identifying and keeping our distance from those who we know from past experience will not help us to heal. We all have toxic people in our lives. People who don't encourage us, but discourage us. People who don’t build us up, but tear us down. People who don't help us to heal, but who cause us even deeper hurts.
Sadly, our own family members may be toxic. It is true that we can't choose our relatives. But we can choose to put a healthy distance between us and them.
When it comes to investing in people, we must choose those who are going to pay huge dividends in our lives, not those who continually drain our account.
Our Heavenly Father provides a road to recovery for every one of His hurting children who seeks it. It's a road that leads to peace, joy, forgiveness, contentment, and healing. But before we set out on our journey, we must surround ourselves with healthy, hope-filled people who are committed to helping us arrive at our destination.